Many men pine for good blowjobs. Our tips will make your technique unforgettable.
The blowjob is the most popular sex practice for most men: According to the Amorelie Sexreport 2017, almost two-thirds of German men dream of their partner giving them fellatio. This means that blowjobs are twice as popular as anal sex (32%). The threesome (21%) and role-playing (14%) don’t make it nearly as far up the list as oral pampering.
The rumor persists that women don’t feel like giving their partners this special pleasure. But that’s not necessarily true, as Statista reveals. At least in the 20 to 35 age group, only seven percent said they were not interested in oral sex at all (survey period 2008). Interestingly, four percent of men also preferred to say no. However, most are open to the topic.
Another truth about blowjobs will not please many women. The Sexpertin Jana Förster talked with 50 men more exactly about their sex everyday life.
Most interviewees were rather disappointed about the (non-)ability of their previous partners. It is even said that almost all women overestimate their fellatio skills. While most of them still wouldn’t say no, some men even prefer to do without blowjobs because of that. Ouch!
But the problem lies less in the technique than in the inner attitude. Therefore, if you want to please a man orally, you have to start with yourself. Then you’re not far away from giving him the best blowjob of his life.
If you apply our tips, your next blowjob will knock his socks off. Promise!
Why men love blowjobs
If you want to shine with your tongue and lip skills, you need to know what men actually want. There are a few things that can be learned from this.
Rare pleasure
Sex is desirable for most people. However, fellatio is more than that, because this type of play is more intense. In addition, many men experience significantly less blowjobs than they desire. The scarcity of this exceptionally desirable commodity definitely plays a role in preference – especially when it comes to quality.
Use blowjobs in your relationship, but don’t let them become routine to maintain the allure.
Authentic and genuine
There’s no faking a blowjob. While men can use anal fleshlights, sex dolls and the like to get at least close to the same feeling as regular sex during a dry spell, fellatio definitely requires a real person. Besides, you can’t fool men: they notice right away if you’re not into it.
This type of play is all about you and how you build a mental connection with him. Even your personality plays a role. It’s not for nothing that people talk about an art.
It’s no different with women, by the way: many love blowjobs, but they prefer to save a dildo for other purposes. They also prefer a real person as a counterpart during oral sex.
Be better than a sex toy by allowing intimacy.
Just do nothing
French play is pure relaxation for the recipient. He lets himself be pampered and has to do purely nothing – except enjoy. He can remain passive throughout and just lie there without exerting himself. This is often a welcome change, because otherwise men are more often the active part.
You give, so offer him some excitement too.
Pure sexyness
Doing it French to someone comes across as extraordinarily erotic. Don’t be surprised if he watches you all the time and observes everything closely. The sight is incredibly interesting and furthermore, it brings him up to speed.
Don’t underestimate how important the visual component is for his arousal. He will probably become active after all, so that he sees as much of you as possible, for example, by brushing your hair out of your face over and over again.
Enjoy showing yourself off!
What men think
Australian dating coach Mark Rosenfeld conducted a survey among US men. He wanted to find out how a blowjob generally feels. While some statements are absolutely not surprising, one or two might be. Here are the five most frequently mentioned answers.
During a blowjob, men feel….
- Connected and close to her in an intimate way.
- powerful and dominant.
- cared for by her.
- respected and cherished.
- relaxed.
Here, Mark tells us that “connected and close to her” was mentioned about twice as often as the other answers. Wow. So while the feeling of power and dominance is definitely desired in fellatio, it’s probably not the most important thing.
Here’s the video of the survey.
Blowjobs are not for one-night stands. Save them for special men you want to be close to.
7 tips for perfection
So how does it work, the perfect blowjob? In the next few paragraphs, you’ll learn in detail how to put men’s desires into practice. Each of the following tips will make a difference between an average and a top-notch blowjob.
1. take your time
A blowjob can last a minute – or stretch out much longer. If you want to give a man a special treat, plan on about 20 to 30 minutes. So that it doesn’t get boring, you should always do something different. Within 20 minutes, there is enough time to go through the entire repertoire of the French art of love.
For example, start by looking at his penis, admiring it and breathing on it seductively. Then use gentle kisses and a soft tongue before taking him into your mouth for the first time. Suck on his glans, massage the frenulum with the tip of your tongue or lick his shaft with pleasure.
Also like to switch between blowjob and hand massage and vary again and again in terms of speed, depth and intensity. Try out different pressure strengths of lips and tongue.
2. have real fun
A blowjob should also give pleasure to the active part. If you do it just to please him, you’ll beat out an average experience at most. However, it is more likely that he will not like it very much.
This is because the listlessness cannot be covered up. Nor is it worth pretending. Men can tell the difference!
Lack of pleasure is one of the most common reasons why men are dissatisfied with their partner’s blowjob qualities. They want true passion, which translates into oral sex being pleasurable on both sides. But if you don’t want to give a blowjob, don’t do it. Don’t be persuaded either.
Do you count yourself among those women who definitely want blowjobs, but are inhibited? Take it slow and find an understanding and patient partner who is more experienced and whom you trust. 3.
3. let saliva flow
Sex has to be wet. This is not only important for women, but also for men. A dry penis can be sore and painful. Sufficient moisture also makes sucking, licking, sucking, blowing, breathing on, sucking and humming feel much more intense for him.
So your blowjob should rather be wet than dry, so that it feels sensational for him. Mother Nature has given you the best remedy: spit! Use plenty of it.
Most men don’t mind if it drips down a bit. If you know you’ll be giving your partner oral pleasure in the foreseeable future, drink plenty of water in preparation.
It may cost you to give a blowjob with a lot of spit. If that’s not your thing or your mouth doesn’t produce enough saliva, try using a flavored lube. Peppermint tea, ice cubes and similar aids also provide interesting effects.
4. keep eye contact
Look me in the eye, little one! For many men, it is a special attraction when she looks at him while blowing. This increases the feeling of connection. It’s not said for nothing that love enters through the eyes. Besides, eye contact creates intimacy and triggers deep feelings.
You can check at the same time if he likes what you are doing. By the way, looking at him does not mean staring at him. That could destroy the pleasure. But every now and then it’s worth it to look him directly and deeply in the eyes during the blowjob and smile a little. Try it out!
5. think not only about his penis
The most sensitive parts of the penis are:
- Glans
- Frenulum (frenulum of the foreskin)
- Bottom of the shaft
During a blowjob, his penis is indeed the focus of your attention. But it’s worth involving other erogenous zones as well, using your hands. By the way, some men can only come if you combine a blowjob with a handjob.
The desire for touch applies especially to his testicles, which are unexpectedly receptive to pleasurable touches. Knead them gently, tug on them or use your mouth here as well. You should always be careful, because the testicles are vulnerable.
You can also massage and caress his legs or butt. He may even be open to anal caresses, massages (perineum, anus or prostate) or the use of an anal toy. In this regard, however, you should be sure that he is comfortable with it. Some men prefer to leave their butts out of lovemaking. Respect his no-go’s, then he can really let himself go.
He may feel like holding your hands instead, giving you a sign of his affection. As we have already explained above, intimacy is essential for a successful blowjob.
6. the grand finale
Blowjobs perform different functions during sex. On the one hand, they are perfect as foreplay. Passive oral sex serves both sexes to increase their arousal. Thus, there are men who only make it to a strong erection through fellatio.
But a blowjob can also be anything. Surprise your partner with unexpected oral sex and bring it to the end. Make an agreement beforehand that he will let you know shortly before the climax so that the surprise does not end unpleasantly for you.
By the way, swallowing is not harmful, provided that he does not have any STDs. If you are unsure about this point, he better wears a safe condom all the time during blowjobs.
7. for advanced: sound out the depths
Porn often gives the impression that deepthroating is the ultimate blowjob. Sure, there are men who get incredibly turned on when his penis disappears into you all the way. However, it’s not as easy as it looks with porn actresses. Two problems often present themselves when someone tries this practice:
- Gag reflex: This unpleasant body reaction is difficult to suppress.
- Breathing: The deeper it goes in, the harder it is to get air.
Both of these hurdles can be overcome with practice. You can control the gag reflex with aids. Some use their toothbrush, a dildo or another phallus-like object. Try to push your individual limit further and further back by exposing yourself to this stimulus more often and trying to resist the reflex.
With the right breathing technique, you will have enough air available even during a deepthroat. You also need to be able to relax your throat. This makes a lot of things easier.
No one should be pressured by porn. Don’t feel like doing it? Then don’t do it! Deepthroating is an extreme variation of the blowjob and by no means the standard program. He can usually come even if you only devote yourself to the glans.
Remember that you need to feel comfortable as well. If you want to take the tip of his penis in your mouth at most, that’s okay too. Just use your hands additionally while massaging his shaft. This also proves to be effective.
Safety during oral sex
The popular French lovemaking techniques bring a lot of pleasure on both sides. But you should be aware that they are not free from health risks. The danger lies in the potential transmission of STDs. Infection is possible even if you leave the sperm out. Besides, you can also infect him through your saliva.
During a blowjob, you can get infected with anything, such as:
- Human Papillomavirus (HPV).
- Chlamydia
- hepatitis B
- Syphilis
- HIV
How to protect yourself? With a condom, pathogens have less chance when blowing. However, bacteria are also transmitted indirectly, for example through the fingers. Parisians are also not 100 percent safe because of the risk of tearing during oral sex. They do protect you somewhat, so it’s worth using them, but you can’t fully rely on them.
Therefore, always choose your sex partner well. He should not be contagious and preferably not entertain other intimate acquaintances next to you. Monogamy may sound boring, but this way of life greatly reduces the risk of serious infections. Those who change partners frequently should get tested regularly for STDs.
Tips to protect against STDs during blowjobs.
There is no absolute safety in oral sex, so lower your risk by:
- Condoms and good hygiene
- a monogamous lifestyle for all involved
- when changing partners: regular tests for STDs
- Go to the doctor even if the symptoms seem harmless.
If an STD is suspected, sexual abstinence is the order of the day, except for masturbation. Blowjobs are then also taboo.
The most important things to take away
With a high-quality blowjob, you can make men and yourself extraordinarily happy in just a few minutes. According to surveys, however, the experience is not always as good as hoped. If you want to wrap your lover around your finger with French love arts, you should definitely focus on his wishes and needs.
The most beautiful thing about fellatio for the recipient is the extreme closeness and deep connection. Some men also appreciate the feeling of power and dominance or the loving care. Here, each personality has different preferences. If these are clear, you have many options to blow him to the seventh heaven.
A first-class blowjob runs without time pressure. He is passionate, wet and needs at least some eye contact. The all-around pampering also includes the involvement of other erogenous zones, but they must correspond to the preferences of the recipient.