You stand under the shower and let hot water run over your body with pleasure. Relaxed, you soap yourself and let all your worries fall away. Suddenly you feel a warm hand on your shoulder, another embraces you from behind and massages provocatively your breasts. Your lover now steps completely behind you and you feel his muscular upper body against your back, his hard penis against your tender buttocks. Then he lets his hand slide lower and skillfully plays around your clitoris. As he slowly slides his fingers inside you, you are very close to a heavenly orgasm. You moan and reach for his pulsating member, which rubs warm and wet against your palm.
Oh yes, sex in the shower can be really hot. This was also the opinion of 41% of the 3,500 men and women interviewed in a survey conducted by the German research institute “explorare” and bathroom and kitchen equipment manufacturer GROHE. They said they regularly have showersex.
Incidentally, the survey included not only German respondents, but also opinions from men and women in Great Britain, France, Holland, Denmark, Russia and Egypt. So sex in the shower seems to be highly popular everywhere.
12 tips you should consider before your showersex session
Showersex can be very arousing. However, a wet number in the shower also carries a certain potential danger and is not always easy to manage. Therefore, first note the following before you think about a suitable position:
1. caution, danger of slipping!
It’s no secret that the floor of a wet shower can be quite slippery. If wild movements during uninhibited showersex are added to this, a slide is pre-programmed. What sounds funny at first is not so funny, because if you slip in the shower, you can easily break your bones or hit your head hard. So make sure you have a secure footing and don’t make any jerky movements. You can also put a bath mat on the floor of the shower, so that you do not slip so easily. If you don’t have a bath mat at hand, an old, wet towel will do as well.
2. do not hold on! Or do you?
During a passionate number you have to hold on to something in the heat of the moment, right? This is especially true for showersex, because of the slippery shower floor. However, if you hold on to the shower faucet, the stall door, or the shower shelf, you could be in for a nasty surprise. These objects are not designed to be gripped tightly and possibly even weighed down with your own body weight. If the shelf or faucet then gives way, the mood is gone and the number in the shower is over. So it’s better to install a firm grip on the shower wall if you often make love in the bathroom. Otherwise, note point 1, so that you have a firm stand and do not need additional holders.
3. lubricant should not be missing
It sounds a bit strange, since you are surrounded by a lot of water during showersex, but you should not do without lubricant especially in the case of sexual intercourse in the shower. This is because plain water does not have any lubricating properties. On the contrary, it dries out the skin and deprives it of its natural greasy film. So if you get in the shower and first wash your genitals with water, it will be very difficult to penetrate smoothly into the vagina or anus. So it is better to use a silicone-based lubricant. Such lubricants have the advantage that they are not immediately washed away by water.
4. organize foreplay somewhere else
Let’s not kid ourselves – most shower stalls are very cramped. To perform an adequately lustful foreplay including cunnilingus, blowjob, massage, spanking and co. here is almost an impossibility. However, especially women need an intense foreplay to come to orgasm. So if you’re not just planning a quick, spontaneous act in the shower, it’s best to move the foreplay to the bedroom and only get in the shower when you’re really aroused.
5. take sextoys with you in the shower
On the other hand, if you have aids at hand, then foreplay is still possible in the shower. Numerous sex toys are waterproof, even those that are electrically operated. So, for example, take a pressure wave vibrator with you into the shower to perform a delightful and wet clitoral massage before you really let it rip.
6. think about the size difference
Showersex usually takes place standing up. This is fine for couples who are about the same height. However, if there is a height difference of 10 to 30 cm, it becomes very difficult to find suitable positions to perform penetrative showersex. One solution would be to have intercourse on the shower floor. However, this is certainly not very comfortable for the larger part. Another approach would be to forgo penetration and perform only oral sex or a handjob, for example. After that, you can get out of the shower and continue on the bed or sofa.
7. avoid a water fight
Sex in the shower sounds highly erotic, but it can quickly become a no-go if the water jet hits your face and you have to constantly blow and snort to prevent too much water from getting into your eyes or mouth. So adjust the shower head so that the shower water only hits your upper body. Also, make sure that the temperature is comfortable for both of you. If the water is too hot or too cold, the desire quickly goes down the drain.
8. do not shower too long
If you are highly aroused right now and everything feels incredibly good, of course you would prefer to never leave the shower again. However, showering for too long is not very good for the skin, because it destroys the natural acid mantle. This makes it easier for bacteria or fungi to spread. Therefore, do not extend your wet shower over a period of ten to 15 minutes. (If it lasts longer than that, of course, there is no need to worry. Just don’t let it become a habit)
9. soap does not belong in the vagina
It’s not just your skin that can be affected by sexual activity in the shower or bathtub. You should also make sure that no soap, shower gel and preferably no water of any kind gets inside the vagina. This can seriously disturb the vaginal flora, making it easy for bacteria and fungi to grow. It is not uncommon for this to lead to a vaginal infection.
10. penetration is not an absolute must
If your vagina is very sensitive, you have a noticeable size difference or your shower cabin is really not suitable for sex, then don’t worry. Showersex doesn’t necessarily have to involve penis and vagina or anus coming together. Rather, sex in the shower can also include “just” wet kisses, skilled hands, wet breasts, massages, stroking, oral sex, etc. So don’t put yourself under pressure.
11. Is the bath really a turn-on?
Also, ask yourself if you really want to have sex in the shower, or if it’s just the fantasy that turns you on. Many bathrooms are not really a turn-on if they are very small, lined with tiles in horrible colors, have no window so that muggy air accumulates in them, as well as possibly have some mold stains. So first check out the real situation in your bathroom and then decide if the thought of showersex still excites you.
12. Safety first
Finally, keep in mind that pregnancy or the transmission of STDs is also possible under water. So if you haven’t known each other for long, you should have a condom handy in the shower. Unfortunately, it is difficult to put on a condom when the penis is already wet. So put it on before you jump under the water jet. Also note that a condom can slip off quickly, especially when water is involved. Some bath additives can also attack the material of the condom, so that it is no longer one hundred percent safe. So be extra careful when you do it in the shower.
That showersex is a highly double-edged sword, i.e. contains a lot of pleasure, but also a lot of frustration, is proven by this video from “Cosmopolitan”, in which a real couple tries out showersex positions. Also, check out this article if you want to have sex in the water – not just in the shower.
The 8 best positions for showersex
1. The watered poodles
How it works: Doggy style standing up is certainly widely known. Just stand under the shower and turn your back to your partner. He/she will then insert his/her penis or strap-on dildo into your vagina or butt from behind.
Advantages: This position is best suited for showersex, as it doesn’t require much space or breakneck contortions. It can also be performed by both heterosexual and homosexual couples.
Expert Tip:
- Press yourself a little against the shower wall to keep your balance well.
- Your sweetheart can use his hands to stimulate your private parts or nipples.
- Let your lover soap your back while he/she takes you from behind with pleasure.
- In this position, it is also possible that you press a waterproof vibrator against your clitoris.
2. The voyeur
How it works: We’ve said it before, showersex doesn’t necessarily have to involve penetration. Due to the limited possibilities in the bathroom, you can rather get really creative, for example like this: Your sweetheart stands under the shower, soaps up and enjoys the warm water on his/her body. Meanwhile, you sit naked on the edge of the bathtub, watching him/her while masturbating.
Advantages: Lack of space, contortions or danger of slipping do not play a role in this showersex variant. “The Voyeur” is also great for couples with exhibitionist and/or voyeuristic tendencies.
Expert Tip:
- Your partner can of course also masturbate in the shower.
- Grab a sex toy and get yourself going with this.
- Give your sweetheart instructions on what exactly he/she should do in the shower. This way, your dominant streak will also be satisfied.
3. The ballerina
How it works: Stand together under the shower, look at each other and press your upper bodies close together. Now lift one leg so that your lover can easily reach your vagina with his best piece. While he then grips your thigh to stabilize your raised leg, he penetrates you from the front.
Advantages: This position is already a bit trickier, because it requires a sufficient amount of balance. Nevertheless, it also normally works very well in the shower. “The Ballerina” also has the advantage that you do not need much space. The position is also very intimate, because it allows passionate kisses.
Expert Tip:
- Press your back against the shower stall to consolidate your stance.
- If you do lose your balance, you can always put your leg down in between. Soap yourself up with shower gel instead, touch your genitals with your hands or simply focus on wet kisses and wet bodies rubbing against each other.
- Instead of penetrating with your penis, you can also penetrate your partner with a waterproof vibrator or dildo. This is especially beneficial for couples with a noticeable size difference.
4. The wet blowjob games
How it works: This showersex variant is quite simple, because it requires only a hard penis and skillful lips. First, stand together under the shower. Your partner then squats or kneels in front of you, takes your best piece in his mouth and gives you a 1A blowjob.
Advantages: The blowjob is enhanced a bit by the unusual location and the warm shower water. In addition, this position does not require additional tools or an extra wide shower stall. Furthermore, it is possible without problems even with extreme differences in size.
Expert Tip:
- Make sure that the water jet doesn’t hit the face of the part giving the blowjob exactly. Otherwise it will be hard to breathe.
- Lay out a towel in the shower stall. This is more comfortable for the part that kneels.
- In this position you can also try practices like rimming or anal fingering.
5. The mermaids
How it works: Sex in the shower is also a great pleasure for lesbian couples. Sit opposite each other on the shower stall floor and cross your legs. Then move very close to each other so that your vaginas touch. Now rub your labia, clitoris and mons veneris against each other.
Benefits: Scissoring is an integral part of lesbian sex. Rubbing two vaginas against each other is already really hot without water. But when some warm liquid is added, there’s no stopping it.
Expert Tip:
- Break up the scissoring, grab a vibrator each and stimulate your vaginas so the other can watch you do it.
- Move even closer together so you can lather each other’s breasts.
- You can find more hot positions for lesbians HERE.\
6. The sea gods
How it works: If you have a bathtub, you can also use it for wet water play. Lie down in it so that you both look in the same direction. Your bottom touches your partner’s penis/vulva. Now he/she uses his/her hands to caress your breasts and massage your clitoris or to caress your penis.
Advantages: You lie completely relaxed in a fragrant bubble bath and let your soul dangle. The water carries the upper part so that it does not become too heavy. In this position, many erogenous zones can be reached perfectly.
Expert tip:
- Light some candles beforehand, put on some soft music and place two glasses of wine next to your tub. This will create an incomparably romantic atmosphere.
- Change positions sometimes or go to the bedroom after your bubble bath to continue there. In this way, the other part will also experience satisfaction.
- Rub your butt against your partner’s genitals. This way, the erotic mood heats up for both sides.
7. The juicy peach
How it works: Stand opposite each other in the shower. Now lift one leg and place it on the edge of the shower stall so that your vagina is visible. Your sweetheart kneels down in front of you and begins to pamper your vulva with his/her mouth.
Advantages: Women sometimes fear that their vagina and vulva might smell or taste funny and therefore feel uncomfortable during cunnilingus. This, of course, cannot happen in the shower. The warm water also ensures that the rest of your body relaxes and you can completely enjoy oral sex.
Expert Tip:
- Your partner can also hold a waterproof pressure wave vibrator to your clitoris.
- If there is no rim in your shower, you can also place your foot on a small, non-slip stool. A large, scrunched up towel will also do the trick.
- When you can no longer stand, get out of the shower, sit on the edge of the bathtub and spread your legs. Now the pleasure can continue.
8. The suction cup
How it works: If you don’t have a partner with whom you can enjoy hot water games, it doesn’t matter. With the help of special sex toys, you can still have pleasurable showersex. Just use a toy with a suction cup and attach it to your shower stall.
Advantages: Such toys are already available for moderate prices and are easy to install. This way, you don’t have to rely on a second person and have the warm water and the shower stall all to yourself.
Expert Tip:
- Women can find dildos with suction cups HERE. Waterproof vibrators are also great for solo sex in the shower.
- Men can find a pocket pussy with suction cup HERE.